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Bloodsuckers Exposed
"If you can't sue 'em, shame 'em!"
Firstly note, below is part of the case study examples of the
Fair Dinkum Australian Ratings.
Why a webpage about Bloodsuckers?
We all know at least one bloodsucker who we come into contact with on a regular basis.
Unfortunately they are often family. Your own family or part of the dreaded in-law drag.
I just had to put up a web page about bloodsuckers. I currently have so many around me it's not funny. They all feed through my partner of just a few years, who is has thrown one tantrum too many, about financial problems caused by all these bloodsuckers. The mess goes back some 20 years before I came along, but I still cop all the blame and all the tantrums. Then I thought it's a good case study about modern sociology and behavioural sciences, what's going on in the world, the drags on families and society, the immigration game, the child support dodging game, the ineffectivesness of our laws, "why not write about it" and put up a webpage, write a newspaper / magazine article about it, write a book even.
The importance of morality, public opinion, shame / praise systems has long been recognized - Charles Darwin, Evolutionary Psychology, refer The Moral Animal - Robert Wright. We're talking real no bullshit morality, i.e. being what Australians call "fair dinkum".
The damage bloodsuckers do to our society is massive in terms of diverting funds to non-productive uses and a general cause of dysfunctionality, especially when they bloodsuck their own (extended) family, which thus includes extorting education, clothing and development money from that family's children, who may even grow up to copy such behaviour as being normal and acceptable, replicating more monsters.
They really are such a deadweight that, cumulatively, it becomes a significant factor on a macro / global scale - a country's ability to compete economically. So much so that it all becomes an election issue - see more on that at Fair Dinkum Australian Ratings.
First, what is a bloodsucker? A deadbeat, leech, parasite, trouble-maker, delinquent, deadweight on society. All they do is run around playing with broken glass, making a mess, that you have to clean up, always need money or don't pay the money they owe. They let you do all the dirty work while they sit around on their lazy arses, go for trips, buy themselves things with other people's money...
And oh yeah, no matter what you do, it's never enough. So they are always running you down behind your back and starting family squabbles and bickering. The kind of infighting, internecine, and generally shooting each other in the foot, that ensures the lower classes stay in the lower classes.
Let me just admit straight off, I am an arsehole too, aren't we all - some admit it, some are in denial. The proverbial people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones / hang out the dirty laundry, but if other arseholes are provoking you, are pelting stones at you, what can you do...
I used to think the worst ethnic group for bloodsucking was my own Irish-Australian background.
One example - in our relatively recent family history at least 2 major estates have been given away to the catholic church. For the usual good reason - to buy tickets into heaven.
But since coming into contact with my daughter's mother's Indian-Nepalese ethnic group, I'm not so sure. They really give their ethnic group a bad name in Australia.
It's the classic -"let's rip this country off and the stupid Australians we come into contact with, for all we can get".
[Note: The case study below on the people my partner implies are her family - mother, half-sisters, half-brother, brother-in-law et al has been put back up. It was removed in Nov. '06 on the agreement that they would start using commonsense regarding their finances but they have reneged on that agreement. ]
In this case study, it's all controlled by the proverbial (step?) mother / grandmother. We are talking about Maya Suresta (aka Jamuna Kunwar) or her nickname, "Queen Maya" - she thinks she is one of the Nepal royal family. In fact she's had at least 2 name changes and has children to at least 3 different fathers, all of whom quite understandably pissed her off.
It's hard keeping up with Maya's name changes. It seems that she was married to some guy (haven't got a name for him yet), has a baby boy to him; then meets a guy called Mahajan, the baby boy is in the way so she pisses him off, her own son, has a a daugther to Mahajan (Sumitra Mahajan alias Kunwar, Keshary, Smith); then moves on to a guy called Kunwar, has 2 more daughters to him, Sujata (got into Australian by Sumitra) and Sapana still stuck in Nepal. She seems to have mostly been known as Maya Suresta. It's my partner's son, from a previous relationship (the first one to get into Australia), who once threw into the conversation that Maya, at some point, was involved in some kind of criminal activity, and almost goes to prison. And it was because of that embarrassment that she had to change her name to Jamuna Kunwar.
At one point Maya apparently talked her own daughter, my partner (Sumitra Kunwar), struggling as a single mother, into coming up with $10,000 - some of it goes on clothes and jewelry for herself, the rest, some business venture that can't go wrong and promptly gets conned.
I made the first big mistake of being sucked in to getting her into the country, on a tourist visa. Of course I didn't know what she was like then.
Ever since she arrived she does nothing but cause trouble. And continunally runs people down who help her (in my case wouldn't even be in Australia if it wasn't for me to run me down in the first place). She has never had a job, has no idea what it's like to work for a few dollars an hour - week in week out, year in year out. For decades she just sits around having cups of tea. Yet she has continually demanded money all those years - taking money away from her own grandchildren - money for their clothing and educuation. Instead she buys herself jewelry.
The main reason my partner, Sumitra Kunwar, got together with me, as it turned out, was to get this witch into the country - she had been spending thousands of dollars on immigration lawyers / consultants for no result. The first step was to fall pregnant and say she needs her mother. All the other things she needed me to do to get Maya into Australia. Things like providing sperm, being able to deal with immigration - letters, performing at immigration tribunals - where the judge couldn't keep up with all Sumitra's marriages and name changes (Mahajan, Smith, Keshary, Kunwar), arranging financial guarantors like my father and the family house address, etc. Sumitra got together with me in January - by September had Maya arrived in Sydney - I got the witch in for nothing - what a fool I was.
I thought that after one extension of her 6 month tourist visa, i.e. after 12 months (in Sept'03), she would have to return to Nepal - I'd be rid of her. But Sumitra went and found one of those shady Immigration Consultants - a Mr Jonathan Bumanglag, Flamark Pty Ltd, abn 57 065 442 346, Registered Migration Agent 0214199, Suite 4 Level 1, 23 Auburn Rd Auburn 2144, 9749 9582, flamark@primus.com.au - the bastard, he should have his agent licence cancelled - Sumitra actually showed me the different drafts Bumanglag prepared of the different versions of Maya's life history to be attached to Maya's application for permanent residency in Australia - and that would mean the jackpot, a Medicare Card and a Pension all paid by the Australian taxpayer. Sumitra wanted help because they had two big problems (obviously I that was good news for me and the Australian taxpayers, so I kept out of it, I just thought how do you put a ratbag like this ahead of our baby...) Bumanglag had a challenge, viz., 1) to qualify under Australian Immigration Law, Maya had to be basically the only family member left in Nepal, but in fact, she has lots of husbands / family back in Nepal, especially the first son who owns a restaurant (actually the one she pissed off as a baby, but nevertheless) 2) Maya needed to be 62 years old, the then pension age for women - but Maya was only 58 (in 2003), born in 1945...
Well they must have cut out 80% of her life for problem 1.
Then came problem no 2.
September'03 - there's a big farewell party - Maya is returning to Nepal forever Sumitra tells us (even she doesn't expect the scam to work). So we have to pay the airfare (the half-sister and brother-in-law forget to put in) and Sumitra also wants spending money for Maya (I give some $500 we have left in the bank to Sumitra's son, being a mizer, and knowing Maya's history, he gleefully takes it, I know we will never see it again, but better than Maya getting it).
2 weeks later, Maya is back, and now she is suddenly 62 - all these years, no one (including her) has noticed the her passport has the wrong birthdate (not 63 or 65, but the exact age required for the permanent visa application to continue). Surely she won't get away with that one - DIMI will pick this up... what happens?
No problems getting through Immigration at Sydney Airport with a brand new false passport.
Bumanglag lodges all the fraudulent documents, Maya is still here causing havoc - constant demands for money, constantly working Sumitra into tantrums.
Immigration should at least to check the documents Bumanglag submitted, fraudulently produced in Nepal, to support the sudden age jump from 58 to 62. If it shows her birth name is Kunwar, a much later name change, it has to be clearly fraud.
Immigration shouldn't just deport this Maya Suresta, whatever her real name is, they should lock her up. She's a danger to any society.
Of course I knew nothing about the real Maya - I was a total sucker. And they know if you are stupid enough not to see it at the beginning they can blatantly keep pushing it. Anyway obviously I was a bit thick - but it all soon became horrifyingly clear enough. Especially when I made the shocking realization that the bonus after getting the visa was to for the witch to return with my baby daughter, who came out looking white, and sell her to the infamous child smuggling ring in Nepal - who knows some American couple who can't have a baby would pay hundreds of thousands of dollars for a non-traceable white baby from a poor Asian country. I kept being told that it's normal for a 6 month old baby to go back to Nepal and learn the culture. A couple of years later when the half-sister had a full blood Nepalese-Indian baby i.e. dark and not as marketable, in Australia, there was strangely no talk of this custom.
If you find all that hard to believe check out the NCWF - Nepal Child Welfare Foundation, and the increase in child smuggling that occurred after the Tsunami in Asia, after so many parents died or lost contact with their babies. They either sell them as babies or later for prostitution / arranged marriages. The money is rarely to feed other members of the family, it's to spend on themselves.
Even more pathetic, after the smugglers take their fat commissions, just how low would Maya go in selling her own grand-daughter - for $100,000? $10,000? $1000!?...
We know for a fact she sold one of her own daughters (Sumitra) into visa marriage. And Sumitra, just recently threw in - while Maya was giving her the cold shoulder for not handing over more money - that Maya dumped her first born son when she met the next guy she thought she could suck even more money out of (Sumitra's father - apparently a Mr Mahajan or something). And apparently that's the reason, that son - now grown up and owns a restaurant in Kathmandu - never gives her money, and wants nothing to do with his own mother. (If any of our readers from Kathmandu knows this guy please let him know about this webpage, perhaps I can return the favour somehow).
And my Sumitra even said to my mother, that she thinks her first-born son (my toddler's half-brother) now a teenager, is still always sick (gets about 5 major bouts of flu a year) because of being taken to Nepal as a baby and being left with Maya (again probably a lower risk of being sold to child smugglers because he looks Indian).
After my daughter was born, the witch was demanding to have the newborn stay with her for the first month and then Monday to Friday!. Her half-brother even saw this witch squeezing evil spirits out of a few weeks old baby's breasts. This was the way it was going until about 6 months when my baby daughter would return from overnight visits to this witch and then sudden massive vomiting - emergency trips to Sydeny Children's Hospital. They couldn't figure out what was causing it. Then the half brother said he say the witch trying to breastfeed my daughter - being breastfed by different people can poison a baby.
Never let my daughter go near the witch again.
Just as well too, because it soon became clear that the witch was also carrying a dormant deadly disease, which could become active at anytime. She of course is in complete denial, and reckons the Australian doctors are idiots for continuing to monitor her condition - which at one stage did appear to be active and resulted in our little 18 month old toddler having to go through the trauma of testing to make sure she was clear. The current system leaves it up to the carrier to give names of people they come into contact with. Too bad if they are in denial or don't want to be found out, and if your name is given you could test positive and then you have that on your record just through a transient exposure. The Australian public generally, don't know about these risks from people who shouldn't have been allowed into the country in the first place.
It's also interesting to note that Sumitra's half-sister's (Sujata) toddler who gets left with Maya all day is always crying and unsettled. They can't figure out what the problem is. At one point Sumitra was trying to get me to spend hours on the Internet to find a solution (just like like I did with her Uro-gynae problems) - the kids father, Anil, was too busy playing computer games. They should try spending less money on junk (clothes, plasma TV, show-off trips to Nepal, car, etc.) so the mother, Jujata doesn't have to go to work, and get the toddler away from Maya. I shudder to think that could have been what would have happened to our toddler, at best!
Stay tuned, there's a lot more coming on the bloodsucking life story of Maya Suresta.
And then there's the rest of the partner's family, the half sisters and their husbands - always in trouble. Starting with the half sister back in Nepal, Sapana Kunwar. Went to all the trouble of getting her a visa to come to Australia - she wants to bring her dog - quarantine would have been $17 a day for 3 months. She comes, stays 3 months (beloved dog would still be in quarantine!) then wants to go back and marry some guy. Then that marriage becomes a mess and she wants to come to Australia again. Having trouble doing that she decides she wants to be a nurse - just send her $10,000 for course fees. She has never worked in her life either.
As for the half sister here, Sujata Keshary, and her husband, the brother-in-law, Anil Keshary - we had to get rid of our car because they were 'borrowng' it all the time, but not putting in anything for car maintenance and loan repayments $43 a week for 25 years almost $60,000. Even though we sold it for a few thousand dollars, the brother-in-law had the audacity to hound Sumitra to go halves in another car - so we can pay loan repayments for 2 cars at once (plus the 4WD below - see deadbeat father notes). Probably not helped by him being sucked into one of those Internet scams where he was sucked into borrowing money and sending thousands of dollars to some prince in a small African country, who has all this money he's trying to get out of the country, etc, etc.
Then we moved out of our apartment for cheaping living at my parents place - we made the big mistake of not selling straight away and letting them live there. (I'd put "For Sale" signs up and the B-I-L would panic and take them down.) They paid even a low rent when they felt like it. By the time we finally got them out and got it sold the property market crashed. We lost about bigtime by waiting. And of course they hounded Sumitra to put in money for their deposit on their apartment. Then we got the sister's mail by mistake (a redirection stuff up from the old apartment address) - the sister has been hiding the fact that she has stuffed away $18,000!
And Sumitra now admits that a lot of our money that she had been giving Maya up to this time, some $3,000, ended up being given by Maya to Anil and Sujata to put into the deposit for their new apartment, effectively giving them more money to spend on other junk. That was money, we didn't have spare - that we could have used for things like some new clothes, which is what they are always buying themselves. Anil & Sujata knew that was our money and they took it anyway. Bad Karma guys.
Months after selling our apartment they, and Maya, the mother-in-law, kept bullshitting Sumitra that her old apartment had been sold at a much higher price (all this while she was dealing with serious post-surgery problems).
BIL loses his job they stop boasting about the affluent life-style and pressure my partner to give them the money we haven't been blowing on clothes and Harvey Norman to maintain their mortgage, like they do. BIL gets another job back to boasting again - they're buying another car. Until the next financial crisis...
And of course there is your partner. Like Cinderella she blindly stays faithful to her deadbeat (step) family - she sees you as the arsehole... you are 100% to blame for everything, including all the mess before you even met her. Even though you've only known her for a few years, she blames you for all the financial drain of the bloodsuckers going on for 20 years before. Then she needs surgery - complications - doctors can't do anything - you bust your gut learning every relevant aspect of urogynaecology - get the doctors doing what they should have been doing in the first place - literally end up saving her life - constant infection from long-term catheters would have backed up to her kidneys. No bullshit. If you take her aside and ask her to answer honestly, she would have to admit it's true "the bastard did save my life". But of course she just conveniently has totally forgotten everthing I did.
To jog her memory, and for those who still find it hard to believe that I actually saved this unthankful bitch's life (all while trying to look after our toddler) check out the detailed notes I've had to keep to stay on top of things, click here. And it should be noted I was only able to put pressure on doctors to help us because of the quality of the reports that I prepared for them, and by making it clear to them that I was no ordinary pleb off the streets - at one point a professor was talking to me like a colleague.
As soon as she starts getting well, it's back to the tantrums, you are the arsehole. You are ruining her life, it's boring, there's not enough money - why aren't you bringing in $100,000 a year. That's the 'arse-about' logic. Doesn't matter that if not for you she would be bedridden, and on the slow death track. Unthankful bitch. And even if you go out and work 2 jobs any extra money is just going to leak back to all these bloodsuckers.
Of course your partner is one of these women that is happy women's liberation and equality has meant more jobs and better paying ones for women - ineffect taking good jobs away from guys. But it's all her money, if the guy stays home - he's a bum. Even though he is the Managing Director of an incorporated Australian company, runs an Internet business, has written 2 books, and his work is archived in the National Library of Australia. Yep, if you don't commute on a train and sit in an office you must be a bum. Of course if you were to do that, and she stayed at home, it would be even more chatting on the phone and watching DVDs all day.
And nevermind that the main reason he has to stay home is to protect his baby daughter from abuse by her own (step) maternal grandmother, and any extra money just gets leaked out to these bloodsuckers anyway. Nevermind that she's happy to use your family house - and doesn't pay any rent - free living, and no mortgage. Or that you saved her thousands of dollars in immigration consulting fees, which still wouldn't have got the witch into the country. And thousands more trying to find a urogynaecologist to work out her problem. And there was even the money she was wasting on a lawyer to fix the owner name on her apartment re the loan company and the Land Titles Office - I did for nothing.
Some how her old situation - fortnightly big payments on the mortgage for ever on a shitty little apartment in Auburn (and huge strata management fees) and loan repayments for a crappy car that had to be sold (but $43 a week bundled into the apartment load, that would have continued for another 26 years!) - was much better financially than the new situation after she met me - rent free - keeps the salary - no repayments fortnightly and a sizable amount of money invested, and nothing on the credit card.
And to reduce the tantrums I found her a Gym (Fitness First), $1500 plus - the first year's cost (including $20 a week and gotta have all the clothes and gear) - she loves it - goes everyday. Still chucks tantrums - I'm still the selfish, good-for-nothing arsehole.
She's just gotta be the unluckiest woman in the world now.
Then it's your turn - you need surgery - you're walking around in pain -but you can't go into hospital, because you don't have any faith in her to give you any support. One tantrum and she's off to hang out with bloodsuckers, who are naturally going to take advantage of you being laid up. Not to mention the increased threat to your little daughter's security.
And more recently they're all trying to con SK into buying property in Nepal. These bloodsuckers don't have any money to put in, they are always blowing it. No doubt if it was allowed to happen, Maya would forge my SK's signature sell it, and blow the money (probably more money for Sujata and Anil). Just like she did before with property given to SK by her father. Easy to do in Nepal, a country where the government is a mess, corruption everywhere, and there are no proper laws to safeguard property ownership. SK goes along with all this, and is happy to go to Nepal for several months, even if it necessitates leaving her 3 year old daughter. Anything to please the bloodsuckers.
And the only reason we have the money put away is we don't pay rent at my parents place. Which understandably, my parents only allow, if we show some effort to save and be wise with our money. I reminded SK of this point, and that if they're going to blow savings money like this, then it's necessary to pay the back-rent owed to my parents over some 4 years. That point, plus SK's continued physical and mental health problems requiring all her available long service leave (and daily visits to the Gym) backed the vultures off for a while.
But of course when I set up (with her very uncooperative employer) the long service leave at half-pay over 6 months, effectively putting us below the poverty level - just enough money for food, but less money for her to sneak out to all the bloodsuckers - they start giving SK the cold shoulder (no doubt until she gives an undertaking to Maya that she will return to full-time work, until she drops, and that the Nepal scam is back on). Just when you think these people can't go lower, they always do...
Deadbeat Father of the Year - Terry Smith
And now for the Deadbeat of the Year, we are talking about the child support dodgers - "the father of the partner's 'teenager from the previous relationship' Sean Suraj Smith (b. 3/8/90) trick".
Apparently the relationship ended because of things like him going off for holidays with mates to Darwin without her, and he was after her younger sister.
Just like all the other child maintenance deadbeats, they know how to get out of paying their share of their kids upbringing expenses, and hiding income from the Child Support Agency.
We are talking about a world champion deadbeat, one Mr Terry Smith, of 9 Kamira Ave Villawood 2163 NSW. He's about 49 years old.
He's always buying himself cars, most recently a red Mazda 6 sedan, rego AQ 14 ZY, with money he owes for his share of his son's expenses over the last 18 odd years. No doubt the cars are registered in his mother's name. Smart isn't he? This deadbeat will do anything to avoid his responsibilities. I wonder what a judge will think of such cleverness, let alone creating more bad karma - this guy is just asking for bad luck.
He is driving around having a good time with child support money. The Federal Government's Child Support Agency and Premier Morris Iemma's Labor State Government could be doing a lot more, they should introduce a law to cancel the driver's licence of these deadweights on society.
It's crazy, society's laws are that an idiot can lose their licence for traffic violations, e.g. speeding, non-payment of fines, but these other deadweights get off scot free.
Arsholes like Mr Terry Smith cry poor but have plenty of money for hobbies, cars, motorbikes, fishing, shooting, weekend trips, holidays, etc. The Sean Smith gets to tag along on weekends, and grows up thinking what a cool father - no nagging, all playtime. There's no putting in half of the cost of the kid's education, clothe's, junk food bill, the never ending naglist items, e.g. plasma TV, the latest mobile phone, etc. etc. This deadbeat's mates probably see him bringing along his son for the fishing day or whatever and think what a good father. But they don't know that when it comes to everyday costs, things like putting in 50% for shoes for school, this deadbeat dodges his responsibilities.
Typical in cases of kids of separated parents, they have no concept of parent finanical responsibility after the split, there's no mandatory counselling or special TV commercials put out by the Child Support Agency. In the case at hand, a few years ago Centrelink / Family Allowance Office sent my partner letters about reducing the child allowance benefit for Sean Smith if she didn't try harder to "locate" Sean Smith's deadbeat-father (on the relevant form she puts down: 'father whereabouts - unknown') and force him to pay the proper child support as determined by the CSA, when she put this to DBF he said, "Don't tell them my name and address they'll come after me!". If Sean Smith reckons his father is paying in his fair share of the cost of raising his son, then he should ask his DBF if he has changed his mind on us giving his name and address to the government.
Anyway so the FAO went ahead and reduced the fortnightly payment to about $45 for Sean Smith. We lose over $200 a fortnight in FA payments. That loss is of course in addition to the burden of always having to pay his deadbeat father's share of everyday costs. (Now with a toddler daughter the majority of our fortnigtly Family Allowance payment for Part A and Part B relates to her, some $250.)
There are some quite believable estimates that put the cost of raising a new generation spoilt kid, who gets inundated with billion dollar marketing campaigns and heavy peer-group pressure, just to the early teenage years, at over $250,000. So the additional cost into their 20s - 'their first car', etc. - is frightening...
Let's show this deadbeat the power of decent Australians. At least we can force him to have to change his mobile number. Send him an SMS, his number is: 0412 645 157
Something like "Nice new car, you child support dodger!"
And here's the classic tantrum from the partner: she whinges about not having a car, mainly to keep the bloodsuckers happy, and to keep up with the proverbial Jones'es. We don't run a car because of the previously mentioned reasons, and because if we did we would be paying for 2 cars, i.e. including the deadbeat father's car, who can only afford his new car because he's been dodging paying his share of his teenage son's expenses all these years. If that's not enough the partner is sneaking around arranging for the ex-husband to find her a car to buy, when she should be at least teaching her son that he should feel guilty about tripping around in a new car paid for with blood money. And these guys were even planning to take off on a trip on the day the partner was having major surgery, had to remind the Sean Smith that things can go wrong and the right thing to do is be closeby and supportive - and as mentioned above things did go badly wrong.
It really would be appropriate if someone could send in a photo, maybe taken with a mobile phone even, of Terry Smith rolling up for fishing or whatever, in his new car.
When the deadbeats don't pay their share, the money has to come from somewhere else, e.g. the deadbeat and son in the last 3 years have gone away for countless trips, whereas we haven't been away once. And to rub it in the Sean Smith gets dropped off back to our place Sunday night, usually unfed and unshowered and says "What did yous do over the weekend?".
Sean Smith continuously makes it clear that if SK doesn't keep coming up with the money for everything on his naglist, TRP will move to his deadbeat father's place. That's on the cards anyway because Sean Smith is now working age, could leave school and pay rent into Smith's Villawood setup. But you can bet they would still continue to bloodsuck money from us.
The threat was made again recently, and SK responded with, "If you're going to live with your father, I'm going back to Nepal." then even Sean Smith said, "But what about your toddler daughter?". It's been made clear many times that at the end of the day, not only is she one of those mothers that favour her first born (Sean Smith was an only child for the first 12 years) but also the second child, our daughter, is expendable, she only had her to help Maya's visa application problems.
And if I push the issue - simple decency, doing the right thing, Sean Smith plays the victim, "If I'm causing all this trouble I feel like committing suicide...", Sean Smith says, which he knows sends my mentally unstable partner / his mother into hysterics and more threats of moving out - back to a shitty little apartment and a mortgage - ironically, Sean Smith himself, has told the story (this is before I came along, Sean Smith must have been less than 11 years old) of seeing his mother banging her head against the wall and screaming "My life is shit!", over and over again. Back to that same mess - having to go back to working 3 jobs, until her now brokendown body drops - anything to keep the bloodsuckers happy.
It's also ironic, that even when SK has chucked a huge tantrum, is leaving - I give her all the bank and credit cards - when she calms down, Sean Smith makes sure to get the cards and give them back to me. Because he knows only too well, before I came along, it was way to easy for Maya to suck money from his mother. He can't compete with an unshackled Maya. At least once back in the old days, it was the constant 'Maya drag' that resulted in all his savings being cleaned out.
From the study in sociology, divorce, separated parents, effect on kids perspective - you always hear about the negative impact on kids, but very little about the way smart kids will play one parent off against the other - the "If you don't bribe me with money, I will move to father's place" syndrome. For a lot of us growing up in dysfunctional families where the parents were incompatible, a shitty situation, 'day in - day out', for years - no weekend escapes - we wouldn't mind trading places.
Laptop Deceit
Here's a good example of the games they play:
14 Dec. - Sean Smith has made list (see copy here) of things he tells his mother / SK he wants for xmas - she goes away and totals it up herself on a separate piece of paper to almost $5,000 (see copy here) - including $3,000 for a laptop with Centrino Internet connecton capability - a list this huge even though he knows with all his mother's health problems we are trying to live on half a pay.
16/12 - he goes away for the weekend with his deadbeat-father (DBF) - night of 17/12 - he phones his mother - from the conversation sounds like he wants to go ahead and buy / order something - SK says something like, "You can't just go off and get it now, wait..." - sounds expensive (probably the laptop) - 19/12 - SK says $3,000 (she knows $5,000 would be a bit too blatant) is needed for xmas presents - doesn't sound like what she is talking about covers all family members - more likely mostly for Sean Smith, as usual - 19/12 - Mon. - also Sean Smith again comes back with a cold / flu - just had 2 weeks off in early December - at leat 5 times he's had flu this year - just about all brought back from a weekend away (not helped by his junk food diet) - 22/12 - Sean Smith is pushing for broadband Internet connection (clearly he needs this for the laptop to download games, DVDs, music, etc) and there's talk of how much is available for xmas presents which we will incur after the 25th (to try to get some saving from post-xmas sales) - I manage to set $200 for each of the four members of the family, Sean Smith, not impressed with only $200 direct. Sean Smith quips, "That will do for now", implying he will be getting more later, one way or another, i.e. Sean Smith will have to get the laptop the indirect way - through the backdoor via his deadbeat-father with money that is owed to us for his son's everyday expenses. Also take Sean Smith to doctors - 23/12 - SK admits his deadbeat-father is now getting Sean Smith the laptop for xmas, i.e. Sean Smith is getting it the indirect way.
All of this week we are nursing Sean Smith through another of his flu bouts - 2 trips to doctors - on 23rd, Fri. - his deadbeat-father picks him up (Sean Smith's intention is to be away for at least xmas / weekend) - doesn't say merry xmas thanks for everything they've done for him over the year to my parents here - SK is so excited and proud that her son is going to buy her a birthday present (on the 23rd). In reality it was my mother who pressures Sean Smith into buying his mother at least a birthday present. Instead Sean Smith gives the entire family here his flu, he's down for 3 days bed / TV sofa.
25/12 - SK is talking to her ex-husband / the deadbeat-father on the phone about the laptop, like they are partners in crime - it's confirmed Sean Smith got his laptop via his deadbeat-father - eavesdropping further, clearly DBF was saying he wants money - it was pathetic to hear SK say she will give DBF half the cost of the laptop - that is sneak out the other half to DBF! In effect we are paying for everything. And that means Sean Smith is again getting a disproportionate amount of money for xmas compared to other members of the family $200 (I put my $200 into Year 10 study guides, and dictionary, classic books, etc., from Dymocks, to try to get a family library going) against whatever it's going to end up costing us.
As it turns out, they got the laptop on one of those Harvey Norman high interest payment plans over several years, where you end up paying double the original price. So that will be around $6,000 for a laptop that will soon be superseded - everyone knows computer technology leapfrogs every 6 months - the next generation of laptops will be on store shelves in mid '06 - everyone is talking about the new dual 2-brained laptops - within 12 months Sean Smith's old laptop will be selling for less than $1500, before it becomes completely obsolete. Then the nagging / conning starts all over again...
And then there's all the other items on his ever growing naglist.
Clearly, SK was in on the whole scam, just gullible, DBF already owes well over $100,000 for his share of his son's everday expenses over the last 15 years, and there's SK, always whinging about the lack of money - instead of pressuring DBF to pay up, even for future costs e.g. 50% of school clothes and books for Year 10 or put the money into a tutor (because looks like Sean Smith will not make it past Year 10 let alone have good enough passes to do high enough levels of Maths, English and Science to get into any university let lone a good course) - she's ready to give the problem the money, the deadbeat-father.
So the laptop is just an a very expensive toy - sure, sometimes it will be used for a school assignment, but we already have 2 computers in the house for that, and there are brand new local library facilities. If it was really still needed you could get something a lot cheaper, but DBF & Sean Smith want to play on weekend trips. Underlying the trickery and dishonesty is that our family pays, directly or indirectly. And theres is still the second half of the deceit to come, namely, the real major cost - ongoing increasing cost - the need for the expensive broadband connection where you end up paying per download for computer games, DVDs and music - add least another $1-2,000 per year. Then of course, when DBF and Sean Smith go away for those weekend trips with our money, we can also be pay for the Centrino / Broadband internet connection.
A nicely thought out and executed scam, guys. And in turn it generates a shitload of Bad Karma.
Well, as a study in sociology in the new millennium, can't wait to watch and take notes on how they actually go about moving the money for all this.
And soon comes the big one, which Sean Smith has already started working on. I noticed a few months ago Sean Smith started doing noticeably more sustained sucking up to his mother. It soon became clear what the target is ... 16, 9 months soon, the licence, P-Plates ...just gotta have a car. An old bomb won't do. How much will Sean Smith go for - how much can he sucker us for? $20,000, $30,000... why not, theres always great financing deals for the plebs it's only going to cost us $87 a week for 25 years (wow that works out at only $113,100!)
And the amazing thing is, like every other modern teenager, it's not 'the' car. It's the 'first' car. After a couple of years, the game starts again ...car No.2
Ripping people off like that is bad karma indeed. Even our toddler notices the ripping off, she says something to the effect, 'Doesn't his father have a shower, always the first thing brother does when he gets home is shower!"
I suppose if you can get away with it, I could do what Mr Terry Smith has done - it's an easy life - just piss off your own child - let the mother and evil mother-in-law do what they like with her - take her to Nepal, sell her - if they end up bringing her back to Sydney, after all, let her mother pay for all the everyday expenses, clothes, education, most of the naglist junk items - if she happens to get very sick, her mother can deal with her employer / boss and co-workers about getting time off work to take the kid to a doctor or hospital - then I'll easily be able to afford a car and keep up all my hobbies - my daughter can then sometimes tag along with me on weekends - not seeing me very often, no nagging Monday to Friday to study or help round the house, she'll think I'm a cool Dad...
The only difference between me and Mr Terry Smith is that I love my daughter. Not just words, but proved by actions.
I'd never give up my kid, I want to spend as much time as I can nurturing her, every day, day in, day out, 365 days a year. There's no hobby that I'd rather be doing instead of hanging out with my daughter. There's no mates that I would rather be shooting and fishing with, than being there to just catch that moment when my daughter does that amazing little thing...
That's it for now. We can take consolation in being pretty sure that in the long run it's 'bad karma' for the bloodsuckers, what goes around comes around. As the old saying goes, "Don't get mad, just get even!". So when they push me past the limit, I'll start putting together more specific details about these world class bloodsuckers, as in all the names, addresses, photos, more contributions from other people who know them, etc. And if you have any more information on any of them let me know. Thank you to people who have already sent in information. Also I'll be spreading the story around in Sydney and Kathmandu - posting on other relevant websites, chatrooms, letters to interested parties, making a full article for sending to newspapers, magazines, a book about it.
And of course, it's long overdue to start legal action against Mr Terry Smith, no matter the dirty tactics he uses, he's been getting away with murder for far too long, and is now rubbing it in our faces with his new SUV. After extensive research to find the best family law lawyers / solicitors in Sydney, probably in Australia, I have just about narrowed it down to just a couple of law firms - Watts McCray and Stacks Lawyers. From research of actual child support dodging cases that have gone to court, it is clear that family law Judges are not impressed by blatant violation of the Australian Family Law Act. I wouldn't be at all surprised to see the Judge follows such precedent, passes down a guilty verdict, takes away his driver's licence and orders that Smith sell his car (and other toys), pay up what he owes over the last 15 years, with interest, and continue to pay his share, and sentences him to 100 hours of community service or maybe even a few months in prison, to boot...
...The bloodsucking just kept getting worse and worse over 6 years...
The ingratitude of these people, even I save Sumitra Kunwar's life in '05, do it all again in '07 by finding Dr Valmadre at Royal Hospital for Women Randwick, on 'Public' / Medicare saved her $8,000 or a 12 month wait, and later when we do split, I'm the one she calls when she has her regular nervous breakdowns - the 18 year old son, Sean Smith is not going to interrupt his entertainment program.
And all the while these Kunwars, here illegally in our country because Nepal is a mess, are running down Australia and Australians - they're stupid (maybe because its so easy to defraud immigration documents, and our social security system, pass the medicare card around, Centrelink...)
By '07 the financial drag of these bloodsuckers had got to the point where one just gives up. Of course that conincides with with when Sean Smith gets his Learners L Plates - then as expected after 5 years of us not having a car (or credit card debt) he Sean Smith starts pressuring his mother for money for his car at age 16. So we would be funding his car (to be constantly updated like mobile phones) and his deadbeat fathers cars (who even has my daughter in them). And we would be still walking and pushing shopping trolleys to the house while they drive past in another new car. You give up trying to save, go out and get a car, then he wants to take that over, and speed.
Then by early '08 it the last straws that break the camel back, in effect these people provided the 'bullets' for these Evangelist Hypocrites to fire the 'gun' that murdered my father - in particular Sean Suraj Smith of Kogarah and Villawood (b. 3 August 1990) - the 20 minutes showers that wrecked the shower hot water and plumbing system, speeding in a our car without insurance, with frightened daugther in the back - others can cop the speed camera fine (or worse one day, like a hit and run, while he's 'texting') and double demerit points. That was the thanks we got for constantly taking him and his mother to doctors and hospitals.
Then to top it off having got us kicked out of my family's house (where we could have lived cheaply / no credit card debt...) and directly responsible for the death of my father they get worse. Emergency accomodation, skyrocketing credit card debt. Sean Smith and Terry Smith stop going away go weekend and school holiday trips forcing extra cost, I certainly can't afford to carry him any longer, wrecking another show hot water system...
If anyone wants a bloodsucker like Sean Smith in their group / family - good luck.
If you find it hard to believe that Sean Smith is this pathologically diabolical, apart from the physical conrete evidence, just quiz him.
Ask him if he likes long showers, even considering climate change issues and the hot water bill; if he ever once mowed the lawn in 6 years of bloodsucking us at 124 Wolseley Street Bexley; if he really was going on yet another holiday with his deadbeat father (in cars funded by 18 years of unpaid child support) when his mother was going in for major surgery ('05); or ask him how long he as has had his own monthly mobile phone account (Vodafone from age 14?); and then take a look at his mother still trying to make do with prepaids; or him getting an expensive laptop and taking over the Internet Dialup making it impossible for anyone else (the owners of the house he is staying in that drive them to hospitals and doctors) to make or receive calls; or if he, himself oneday, splits from his own children, would he feel responsible to pay his share of their education, clothing and development costs.
That's why we need a national Fair Dinkum Autralian rating system - because the Domestic Abuse laws, especially the impact on little children, don't work. These un-Australians can intimidate all they like. Even though domestic pyschological intimidation and abuse is supposed to be against the law too, the reality is that the Human Services Department won't do anything until there is blood. And even then Legal Aid is set up solely as a service to those who commit the crimes.
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, Sapana Kunwar, Sujata Keshary, Anil Keshary, Lidcombe, Auburn, Sydney, Nepal, Kathmandu; Terry Smith, 9 Kamira Avenue Villawood NSW, about 50 years old - aided and abetted in child support dodging by son Sean Smith, Kogarah, b. 3 August 1990, who rips off his own mother, drives our new car without insurance, speed camera fine 26 January 2008 - pressures mother to take blame - false statutory declaration - imagine the problem if next time it's a hit and run.